Articles on International Marriage Brokers & International Dating
Journalist Goes Undercover
“A Foreign Affair: On the great Ukrainian Bride Hunt” by Kristoffer A. Garin
“These are not American women,” our guide was telling us. “They do not care about your age, looks, or money. And you are not going to have to talk to them for half an hour and then have your testicles handed back to you! Let me tell you: over here, you’re the commodity; you’re the piece of meat. I’ve lived in St. Petersburg for two years, and I wouldn’t date an American woman right now if you paid me!”
It was three weeks before Christmas, and I was sitting in a Ukrainian business hotel with perhaps thirty men, mostly American and mostly on the later side of middle age, listening as a muscular, impossibly loud ex‒radio D.J. who answers to “Dan the Man” promised that our lives were about to change forever. We were all strangers, but I knew at least one thing about these men: each was there because he was frustrated, angry, and tired of being alone.
In this article, published by Harper’s in June 2006, Garin goes undercover and learns about the men who look for love and marriage in foreign countries. He uncovers a surprising vein of anger.
The $20,000 Wife
Yes, This Woman is a “Mail-Order Bride” by Lera Loeb
Steve wrote in an e-mail: ‘Let’s do this—let’s get married.’ Although it wasn’t the most romantic marriage proposal ever, I knew it was genuine. Looking into his eyes when we were together, I could tell how wild he was for me; I felt an incredible sense of safety, warmth and affection with him. Plus, I was desperate to leave Ukraine. I immediately said yes.
…Steve spent five months dealing with the agency and the Ukrainian government. He had to get me a visa, which required him to take multiple trips to Kiev. Between the agency charges, visa fees, travel and other expenses, he ended up spending about $20,000.
In this article, published in Glamour magazine, blogger Lera Loeb talks about meeting her American husband and the frustrating stereotypes about Mail-Order Brides she encounters. She notes that she was unaware of the dangers of advertising herself through an international marriage broker.
International Marriage Broker Regulation Act of 2005
In the United States, so many foreign women have been abused and killed by their American spouses that legislation was passed to ensure that women entering America would know their rights, know that abuse is not normal, and know that they had the right to leave an abusive marriage and would not be deported because of it. Here is the Congressional record of the International Marriage Broker Regulation Act of 2005. We have a nation-wide, chilling account of women who have been brutally murdered. This is only the first page of the legislation.
Here is a more complete account:
Wikipedia breaks it down for the reader:
Here is an article on the difficulties that American men now face when bringing home a bride:
Mail-Order Marriage and Murder
Mail-order Bride’s Dream of a Better Life Ends in Death
by Lewis Kamb and Robert L. Jamieson Jr
She was a beautiful young woman on the cusp of a new life, blossoming into adulthood with the looks of a model and a vivacious personality.
All she wanted was to see the world and escape a life of poverty in a destitute city in the former Soviet bloc.
He was a middle-aged man with his youthful looks long gone, holding onto advanced degrees in business and the bitter memories of a failed first marriage.
In this article in the Seattle Post Intelligencer Reporter underlines the deceptions and dangers of marrying a stranger. Anastasia King, a twenty-year-old woman from Kyrgyzstan, was the second foreign bride of Indle King. The first divorced him, citing domestic abuse. He killed Anastasia King by sitting on her chest while their neighbor strangled her. At the time of her death, Mr. King had been back on the internet looking for a third bride.
According to journalist David Fisher, “Spurred by King’s case, the Legislature is examining a bill that would impose new regulations on the trade in this state.”
Henry K. Lee blogs about a Russian woman’s death for the San Francisco Chronicle. Hans Reiser murdered his ex-wife while their children were home.
Canada: The New Frontier
for Filipino Mail-Order Brides
from the Philippine Women Centre of B.C.
published in November 2000
The Philippines, despite its rich natural resources, remains in a state of chronic economic stagnation. To ease the ailing economy, the country has become the top labour exporter in the world. Fifty-five percent of Filipino migrants are women. Heavily dependent on the remittances of migrant workers, the Philippine government promotes this so-called “alternative livelihood” abroad that has scattered eight million Filipinos to over 186 countries. About 2,000 Filipinos leave the Philippines every day, the majority being women leaving as domestic workers, entertainers, prostitutes and mail-order brides. The mail-order bride phenomenon reaches its high point in the United States where an estimated 5,000 Filipino mail-order brides enter every year (de Stoop 1994). In Australia, there are an estimated 20,000 mail-order brides—22 have been murdered or have “disappeared” since 1980 (CPC 1994).
International Correspondence Marriages:
The Slavic Connection
by Marian J. Rossiter, University of Alberta, 2004
Dr. Rossiter’s study was ‘designed to
1. to examine the expectations of women from the former USSR before they came to Canada;
2. to determine the realities that these individuals encountered upon arrival;
3. to investigate the language and settlement education needs of these brides in Alberta;
4. to determine to what extent their needs are being met; and
5. to make recommendations for responding to ongoing needs.’